Maybe Femininity Was Never Broken?

For most of my life, I was sold a lie.

That I needed to do it all on my own.

That I could never truly rely on a man, and that wanting to made me less.

That success meant staying busy and controlling every aspect of my life, down to the last detail.

I micromanaged everything… my schedule, my future, even my emotions.

I bottled everything up and didn’t allow myself to ever truly feel.

I lived in my masculine energy constantly…and at the time, I didn’t even know what the heck that meant.

To me it felt like having it all figured out and under control, but it was actually pressure and resistance.

Pressure to have it all figured out.

Pressure to “be successful” in the way society defines it (shoutout my 500+ connections on LinkedIn).

Pressure to disconnect from what I truly craved… peace, presence, and a slow, meaningful life.

That is, until I met my now-boyfriend.

The boy of my dreams, and a man with a plan…yes they do exist I promise.

Thank gosh for men, because I don’t think I’ve held a bag since I met him.

He always encourages my creativity.

He leads so I can follow.

He believes in every little project I touch.

He sits with me for hours talking about an idea and somehow gives the best guidance, while still letting me flow and find my own way.

Thanks to all of that, suddenly I was in skirts and sundresses, baking protein muffins in my kitchen… for fun?! And if you know me at all, you know I can’t cook for the life of me… but I’m learning, slowly but surely.

I can’t recognize myself either… yet I’ve truly never been happier.

And that’s when I realized… I was sold a lie.

Growing up, I was told that wanting to care for a man was wrong.

That I needed to be a fully independent woman who did everything herself.

Why let a man do anything for you when you could just do it all on your own?

But the more I thought about that version of life, the more I realized how unfulfilled I’d feel.

Society made it seem like nurturing your home or raising your babies was “not enough,” and that it wasn’t real success for a woman.

But when I really think about it… I believe it’s the most success you can have.

Because if your love, presence, and energy can bring beauty to your home, nurture the people you care about, and one day raise your children with intention and joy… how could that not be powerful?

What a cutie he is ♡

At some point, we were taught that, as women, being present in our home and with our family wasn’t enough…but what if it’s actually the most meaningful thing of all? As women, we naturally bring meaning into what we love. I truly think it’s our specialty… we create beauty, intention, softness. And we tie love into all the little details.

Devoting yourself to the person you love doesn’t make you small, it makes you sacred.

You don’t lose your power by letting someone lead, You bloom when you choose to trust and flow.

And if you’re thinking, “that’s crazy… a woman shouldn’t have to give this much to a man,”

don’t worry… I used to feel the same way about everything I’m saying right now.

But when you meet the right man, let him guide you, and reflect back to the beauty that already exists

within you…you won’t feel weak, you’ll feel at home.

So maybe, just maybe, the most powerful thing you can do… is let go.

With all my love,

Hanna